Don’t Blame Orkut Everytime…. ;-)

Hey friends,

Here are meaning of relationship status option : open relationship n open marriage! Surprisingly many asian friends confuse OPEN with COOL and choose any one of above two option! Worse happen when crazy people start spamming them with indecent friendship requests! And most of them end up balming orkut saying its getting dirty n so on…So read this n Don’t Blame Orkut Everytime…. πŸ˜‰


Open Relationship

An open relationship denotes a relationship (usually between two people) in which participants are free to take other partners; if the couple making this agreement are married, it is an open marriage. While ‘open relationship’ is sometimes used as a synonym to ‘polyamory‘ or ‘polyamorous relationship’, these terms are generally differentiated with the “open” in ‘open relationship’ usually refers to the sexual aspect of a non-closed relationship, whereas polyamory refers to the extension of a relationship by allowing bonds to form (which may be sexual or otherwise) as additional long term relationships:

  • Some relationships place strict restrictions on partners (e.g. polyfidelity); such relationships are polyamorous, but not open.
  • Some relationships permit sex outside the primary relationship, but not love (cf swinging); such relationships are open, but not polyamorous.
  • Some polyamorists do not accept the dichotomies of “in a relationship/not in a relationship” and “partners/not partners”; without these divisions, it is meaningless to class a relationship as ‘open’ and ‘closed’.
  • Some polyamorists consider ‘polyamory’ to be their philosophical orientation they believe themselves capable and desirous of multiple loves whereas ‘open relationship’ is used as a logistical description: that is, it is how their polyamory is expressed or implemented. They would say of themselves, for instance, “I am polyamorous; my primary partner and I have an open relationship (with the following ground rules)….”

However, there is enough overlap between the two concepts that ‘open relationship’ is sometimes used as a catch-all substitute when speaking to people who may not be familiar with ‘polyamory’.

Open marriage typically refers to a marriage in which the partners agree that each is free to engage in extramarital sexual relationships, without regarding this as sexual infidelity.

The origins of the term open marriage remain obscure. Researchers in the 1960s used the term open marriage to describe individual freedom in choosing marriage partners. [1] [2] Closed marriage meant individuals had to marry someone based on social prohibitions and social prescriptions. Open marriage meant individuals could choose to marry someone based on personal preferences. Nena O’Neill and George O’Neill changed the meaning of the term with the 1972 publication of their book Open Marriage, which sold over 1.5 million copies. The O’Neills conceived open marriage as one that gives each partner room for personal growth and allows each partner to develop outside friendships. Most chapters in the book dealt with non-controversial approaches to revitalizing marriage in areas of trust, role flexibility, communication, identity, and equality. Chapter 16, entitled “Love Without Jealousy,” devoted 20 pages to the proposition that an open marriage could include some forms of sexuality with other partners. The concepts of this chapter took root in the cultural consciousness. Popular culture began using the term open marriage as a synonym for sexually non-monogamous marriage, much to the regret of the O’Neills. In the 1977 publication of The Marriage Premise, Nena O’Neill advocated sexual fidelity in the chapter of that name. By then however, the concept of open marriage as sexually non-monogamous marriage had gained a life of its own.

Today, with many committed couples not seeking formal marriage, the term is frequently generalized to open relationship or responsible non-monogamy. The concept of being sexually open versus closed is also sometimes applied to triads or other groups larger than two.

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p style=”text-align: justify”>(Source: http://www.answers.com/topic/open-marriage
Source2: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Open_marriage )

Happy Orkutting!

Orkut: To UNBAN a user from banned community!

One of Devil’s Workshop Orkut Community member Aadesh posted a problem there that he banned one of his community member but want to unban him/her again….

Here are steps to unban a banned member!

  1. Right click on any link (profile, scarpbook, etc) related to that banned person.

  2. Press “Copy Link Location” (in firefox) or “Copy shortcut” in IE or similar option in ur browser!

  3. Paste clipboard content in notepad! (or any text-editor)

  4. Take only “uid” part!

i.e. for link
http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=8047825869783710708

uid is 8047825869783710708

  1. Now copy following link to the notepad.

http://www.orkut.com/CommMemberManage.aspx?cmm=COMM_ID&uid=USER_ID

  1. Replace COMM_ID by ur community id.

  2. Replace USER_ID by above uid. (that u got in step 4)

  3. Don’t put any space between address of step 5 while editing in step 6 & 7.

  4. Open this edited address in ur browser. (ofc ourse after logging into orkut)

  5. You will get all options related to member management. Just press “unban from community”.

This is tasted so feel free to reply if u have any doubt!

GoogleTalk Integrated finally with Orkut!

3 days back I wrote about Orkut & GoogleTalk Integration!

What is the coolest thing is that the way they have done this integration! Many people had different opinion about this integration But as I wrote about adding a green dot indicator beside every profile who is online & using GoogleTalk simultaneously!

So wats new on orkut now?
When u log into orkut, u will see green dot beside some of the profiles! This means they r using GoogleTalk or any other IM network but signed into GoogleTalk service like Gmail!

Now when u click on any such green dot for the first time, u’ll get redirected to the page where u can choose your privacy n one step further your orkut account will be linked to GoogleTalk!

Don’t have GoogleTalk! Download & install it from here!
GoogleTalk is available only for Windows Platform as of now!
But u can use this service from other IM networks!

Listing here are links so that u can use this feature!

What’s more you can disable GoogleTalk Integration anytime you want by going to orkut’s GoogleTalk Settings!
So next time don’t ask someone whether he/she use any messenger service!

Orkut + GoogleTalk = Unlimited Social Networking!

I bet this will make your day!
No more scripts & software for adding Real-Time Interaction on Google’s Social Networking Site Orkut!

Yes as per following sources:

Light Reading reports that Google will be implementing Google Talk into Google’s social Social Networking -Orkut. Google Talk and Orkut‘s development teams are busy working on the integration, which is expected to be finish by next week. Google spokeswoman Courtney Hohne said that they have noticed that a lot of people that were using Orkut also had their GTalk client open at the same time.

This single feature will have a significant impact on the penetration of Google Talk client especially in India where Orkut is hugely popular but GTalk is only to be found on the desktop of geeks. says Amit Agarwal.

One step ahead from Inside orkut observes that installing Gtalk in Orkut will solve two problems at once, as it will not only create a chat program within, but also an online status indicator as well. What he feels that it would be cool if Google integrated this within their Friend Maps page, as users would then be able to see which of their friends are online half way around the world.

Well I feel Google can add another block on orkut home page showing friends using Google Talk the way they shows mutual friends listing on Profile Pages! Another way to add small box like quick contacts in Gmail (as shown in the image on right hand side)!
If these violates orkut’s home page design ethics then they can add a small indicator dot beside every profile!

Well let them come up with whats on their mind, we have many geeks around to serve this new feature as per your need! This will certainly free orkuttian from using quite heavy scrapboy messenger!

Didn’t I make your day! πŸ˜‰
Of course if you are from Microsoft or Yahoo then this is worst news for you as this will push GoogleTalk to a new height that these two gaints union in messenger market will loose its benefits (if any)!